The Father’s Heart

Have you ever stopped to think about just how much you are loved?

For me, I grew up knowing the love of a Mom and Dad and Grandparents and Aunties and Uncles and Sisters and Brother; well, I had better stop there because if I keep going and I sure could, there is a strong probability that I will leave someone out and I do not intend this to be an exclusive statement.

However, I know that there are so many who do not have this experience and I am not going to start to develop a list of examples - we all know of someone and the purpose of my writing today is not to bring more pain; goodness knows there is enough of that in the world.

Wow - I just had a flashback to the 80’s and a couple of Sandi Patty songs; Shepherd of My Heart and In Heaven’s Eyes.  Yeah, I was a huge fan and still am but let me remind you of some of the lyrics from Heaven’s Eyes.

In heaven's eyes, there are no losers, in heaven's eyes no hopeless cause

There's only people like you, with feelings like me; amazed by the grace we can find

In heaven's eyes.

Beautiful song and even more powerful message - the message of grace.  God’s grace.

You see life happens and sometimes even those who love us the most will withhold that love from us because they get angry at us or are unable to forgive us for something that may have happened a long time ago.  Perhaps we are the ones who struggle to give the love to someone close to us because of hurtful things that have been spoken to us or we have been wounded by actions towards us or even the action of exclusion.

Personally, this has been my experience on both sides of the fence and because we are people who have been given free-will, we try to do our best but do not always get our choices right the first time and this is when I am reminded of the power of grace.

That is the Father’s Heart for us, His Kids - His Grace, His Love.

The past couple of days my emotions have been very close to the surface for different reasons.  We all handle our feelings differently, but for me, I am a crier.  Sometimes I try to work out my feelings another way (even journalling), but inevitably, the tears come.  Yesterday they came while I was standing over our kitchen sink washing dishes and I just let them fall and I talked and prayed to God in the process.  My heart has felt a bit beaten up recently over different things and I talked to God about them.  No, I do not have all the answers, but I let God hold my aching heart.  Aching for my friend who lost her little boy too early, aching to talk to Mom just one more time, aching for broken relationships, aching for precious little Indy who just turned 3 and lost her Mom almost a year ago to Cancer, aching for injustice and a whole lot more and then it occurred to me.  God has gifted me with an incredible gift.  God has given me the capacity to love just a little like He does and what a privilege that is.  I am blessed with the opportunity of a tiny glimpse into how much our Abba Daddy hurts for us, His kids and loves us so much.  He wants to carry the weight of our burdens on His shoulders and He offers us Grace.

Whilst I can only begin to imagine on a very small scale the capacity of love that our Heavenly Father has for us, His Kids, I am so thankful to also experience His love and I hope you do, too.

Elephants....Any In Your Room?

I recorded this video last week but due to technical difficulties, I could not upload to YouTube; well, initially anyways.  Perseverance pays off.  Not actually sure what the issue was, but I have made notes for future reference in case it happens again.

We are bombarded with so much information these days I try to keep good notes for training, learning and reflection purposes.  How about you?  Is this something you find useful for your personal growth?

I am getting off topic a wee bit from my video blog below, but suffice it to say, there are many methods to record our notes and I am experimenting a bit with the video way.  Personally I have different methods of note taking or journalling - I sometimes type (I am a trained typist so I can get my thoughts down via keystrokes faster than long hand), writing is also a favourite and I have a few different journals on the go at the moment, recording voice memos is another helpful means for me to record thoughts resulting from conversations, and reflection and as I already mentioned videoing, although this is still relatively new for me.  Of course there are other forms of record keeping of your thoughts, feelings and discoveries like poetry, lyrics, music, sketching, doodling, painting and I could go on but hopefully you get the idea.

When I awoke on Monday morning, the 23rd of January 2017 I had thoughts that I wanted to journal about in my mind, but probably more accurately, I wanted to write a blog article about, so without too much too'ing and fro'ing and no make-up or fuss, I sat down in my recliner and picked up my iPhone and voila.

Next detail was the name of my video and blog post.  I am doing some serious investigating to upscale to a self-hosted blog and considering my branding, marketing, name and audience, just a few thing that need to be factored in before taking the next step.

Ideally, I hope my blog appeals to a wide audience, from young to old because we all have a story and along our journeys we need people around us to encourage us and we learn from other people's experiences.  Ultimately I want to be able to help people along the way and to start off, let me ask you a question.

.....Elephants...Any In Your Room?

This Is The Day

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

I laid awake in the early hours this morning thinking about what title I should give this post.  There were so many options; not unlike the many choices that we are given each and every day.  Some of these decisions are ones that we probably do without even really giving much thought to actually.  Breathing is a bit extreme perhaps because we just do it; breathe in and breathe out; it is pretty automatic yes; but I have come to realise that some choices we make should be as automatic as breathing.

What do I mean you ask?  Where are you going with this you ask?  Well, I am glad you made the choice to ask the question and to continue reading.

If you wait for the day to feel like it, it will never come.  That is why ‘This Is The Day.’  The day for what?  Ah, another question; well done.  It is important to ask questions so that we can understand ‘things’ better.  What things?  So many questions, so little time and sometimes ours is not to know the answer.  I believe that we can get in our own way sometimes and make things more complicated than they really are – I know from personal experience because I am known to over analyse things.  Like even now, the word analyse….hhhhmmmm……the English language gives me a choice.  I can write like a Canadian who I am proud to call myself (analyze), or I can choose the Australian spelling (analyse), my current homeland to which I also love.

Yeah, life can get confusing and complicated sometimes and I know that first hand.  I have not written a lot about my story for the past couple of years, but ‘this is the day’.  I am going to start sharing and there is so much I want to tell, and I have made the choice to start.

I will probably jump around a bit, and it is my hope that the folks that need to take something away from what I share do just that and perhaps others may share my post with others through the vast social media options – goodness knows we have so many choices right there and it is hard to keep up.  I have contemplated a twitter account but I have made a choice ‘not yet’.  I recently culled a few apps from my iPhone because I do not need an app for everything and why not just go to a website, even if is not mobile friendly; I can usually find what I need.

So back on track to a bit of my story.  If I only had the opportunity to write one blog article this year, and as I have called it ‘This Is The Day’, let me encourage you to make a choice to forgive.  We make it more complicated than it needs to be, really.  We will very likely never do it if we wait until we feel like it, and I do not believe it has to do with thinking positively because let’s face it, the stuff we might be holding onto, well, there is nothing positive about it.  If we try to work out what we need to learn from it; well, what we need to learn from it, is to let it go.

No, I am not suggesting that you push down the pain of the hurt and try to forget it.  If it is something serious you are dealing with, like I was and still am (but more on that in future blog articles), then I very strongly suggest you talk to someone about it so you can process your feelings in a healthy way to get ‘unstuck’; otherwise, when you least expect it, the residual unresolved feelings will come back and that is what we do not want.  Trust me on this.  It will become clearer.  Forgiving should be as natural as breathing; yep, you read that right.  Does it mean it is?  Nope, but remember what I said, if we wait until we feel like it, we never will.  We think by withholding our forgiveness we are empowering ourselves, but it actually has the complete reverse effect.  We become prisoners of our bitterness and resentment in our desire to control our environment.

If you are like me, you might think you forgive easily already; but in fact, you say you do but you hold onto the offence because you fear by letting it go, it will make you more vulnerable.  Nope, negative, notta, not true.  It really is the complete reverse.  We are a broken people and whilst we strive to do good and behave Godly, sometimes we stuff up and that is where God’s grace comes in.  Look at the best example – Jesus – “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”  He was bleeding and dying on the cross when He spoke these words – pretty incredible and hard to believe, but true story.

No, I am not going to preach a sermon or anything, but I thought I was pretty good at forgiving and discovered that I actually struggled with it because I let my feelings interfere with the process.  It has become my firsthand understanding that forgiveness first and feelings will follow and despite what my husband Peter says (and yeah, I know he is biased), he thinks I am perfect and he married one of God’s angels.  Yeah, right – NOT! lol

On the contrary, I have made many mistakes and it is my husband Peter that has helped me on my journey to understand the power in forgiveness.  It used to frustrate me so the way he could just let things go without giving them another thought, but that is exactly the way God intended forgiveness to operate.  It is the opposition that wants us to get ourselves tied up in knots over offences when the best thing we can do for ourselves and the other people, is to forgive.  Remember Jesus on the cross?  The people probably do not even know what they need to ask forgiveness for in the first place.

I read a blog post recently – if I can find it, I will share the link here and give credit to where I was inspired by their story.  This family is a blended family and one of their children is disabled and with the business of their lives, their schedule, the priority of their child’s care, they do not have time to take on offences; they just get on with living.  Now, the author said this more eloquently than my one liner, but I hope you get my point.

So, my closing thought…….  Is this your day?

Happy Mother's Day 2016

The dawn has broke on Mother's Day 2016 for us in the world in the South East Hemisphere and in timezones stretching from Paris eastward.

This day in the calendar can be very similar to Christmas in that it can be both a happy and sad time for many reasons for different people.

As I reflect on my own life, I am incredibly thankful for an amazing Mother who was such an inspiration.  Mom was loving, caring, self-sacrificing, funny, beautiful, giving, thoughtful, classy, had an incredible zest for life and for her family and friends and she loved Jesus as her Lord, God as her Heavenly Father and Holy Spirit as her comforter.  I was privileged to be raised by this woman and call her Mom.

Last night we celebrated Mother's Day service at our church a bit early to allow families to relax this morning with their Mom's and it was, indeed, an uplifting service of honouring the wonderful women in our lives.  Pastor John quoted a popular saying, last night "God could not be everywhere, so He created Mothers", and whilst he reminded us that this statement is theologically not true because God is everywhere (omnipresent), Mom's have God's characteristics built-in so to speak.  We are loved, our Mom's nurture us and desire for us to build relationships - it is what we are wired for.

For me personally, I am not a biological Mother (like many I know for various reasons) and this journey has been a road of healing; special thanks to my church family at Springfield Christian Family and some amazing women.  Being childless can sometimes still bring pain and the grief is like losing someone; it will be with me 'til my dying day but over time it hurts less and God has shown me that I am a spiritual Mother to many - what a privilege!

In addition to my grief of being childless on Mother's Day, this past year has been a year of healing from the grief of losing my precious Mom but I am so thankful for the many, many women that God has put in my life to be a friend and also an adopted Mother to me.  My Mom will never be gone from my heart or memories but I am thankful that He has provided other women "with skin on" to be Motherly to me, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

In addition to being a spiritual Mother, I am Step-Mom to my amazing Step-Daughter Chasely who I am very proud of and to my beautiful God-children, Christopher, Aimee, Aidan and Abigail and to Chasely, I love you all with my whole heart.  If I can give you one piece of advice which follows on from the amazing preaching last night by Kristian and Renee, dream big.  We serve an awesome God who wants to give us the desires of our heart.  Do not give up on the dreams that God gives you.  And this advice is as much for me as it is for you.

Peter and I had the opportunity of driving north to Gladstone last weekend to have an early Mother's Day weekend with his Mum Bethie who just had her 86th birthday.  Well, I love taking pictures and took a few of Peter and Bethie and me over the weekend and my Mother-in-law asked me, "what do you do with all these pictures?"  I replied with simply, "I keep them and look at them from time to time."  I got a few goodies this past weekend and check out this blackboard that was in the Blend coffee shop in Tannum Sands that allowed their customers to write their special Mother's Day messages.  I added a message for Bethie who is known as "G-G" to her Grandchildren and Great-Grandchildren.

Photos are one of the ways to help me keep memories alive.  There are others, too; like mementos and keepsakes and my very special friends who gave me a lovely gift to remember Dad when he passed (Jack, the Rose), gave me another beautiful rose to remember Mom.  How appropriate that the rose is called "Jumpin' Jack".

To all Women today around the world, I honour you and wish you all a very special Happy Mother's Day!

The Last QR Snowflake of 2015

This is a short blog post to say 'hi' and wish you all a safe and happy evening celebrating New Year's Eve and best wishes as we enter into a new year - 2016.

I thought it would be fitting to close-off the year with the excerpt from our Christmas Card and a link to the 'funky snowflake' from the Christmas Card which some did not realise was a QR code.  I would have loved to have sent a Christmas Card to all of my family and friends, so this is my opportunity to share with all of you.

The message from our card is as follows: (and can be viewed electronically, too).

For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. Luke 2:11

Greetings Family & Friends,       Dec 2015

From our home to yours we wish you a wonderful Christmas season.  Our year has come with some highs but some very significant lows, too as Mom was Promoted to Glory in April but I will be forever grateful for the gift of spending several weeks with her and creating memories that I will forever cherish.  In the midst of a very sad time, we are grateful for the blessing of a new beautiful God-daughter Abigail, a little sister for big brother Aidan.  Peter received his Diploma in Counselling and we enjoy regular catch-ups with Chasely and Dale and other family and friends and we had a good visit with Peter's Mum Bethie in Gladstone in October.  I continue to enjoy writing and photography and have added a few articles to my blog and hoping to graduate to WordPress soon.

We wish you a safe and blessed New Year.

Love Brenda, Peter and Jessie & Jake

I have included below the collage of pictures which was included in the card, too.

Happy New Year to all - I am so happy and grateful that God has my future in His hands.  Here's to 2016 and so long 2015 and good night.